Chasing Tail: Men & Women’s Pursuit of The Ass | CurlyNikki
Over the remaining month or so I have been taking in bits and items of what is going down within the cultural zeitgeist: Beyoncé and Coachella, Cardi B blowing up the spot, Nikki Minaj losing her newest, Chun Li, and I were given to considering. What is the connection between those 3 cultural moments and what do they imply?
What do Cardi B, Nikki Minaj, and Beyoncé have in not unusual? I don’t believe this can be a accident that every one three have compatibility a undeniable mould, a mould that has come to be a vintage staple within the hip hop neighborhood and extra not too long ago in in style culture- sexy girls with asses. And whilst this isn’t the sum of who they’re, they arrive to constitute stunning girls whose our bodies have compatibility a undeniable archetype…one thing else all of them have in not unusual, infidelity/destroy ups.
I’ve listened to pals, beautiful girls, skilled, career-solid girls believe getting their asses “done” or padding it up, or nipping right here, and tucking there, and sucking out right here and I am like, “For what though?”
There is a ancient line, courting again to the start of time, of stunning, drop-dead stunning girls, who’ve been performed: Halle Berry, Gabrielle Union, Eniko Parish, Jennifer Lopez, Christina Milan, Jill Scott, La La Anthony…and I am positive you’ll identify surprising girls for your personal lives who’ve skilled the similar.
History has confirmed that it’s by no means about how attractive or how dangerous you glance. It isn’t about how “bomb your p*ssy” is, or how just right you “rock the mic,” it’s now not about how neatly you’ll twerk, paintings a pole, or lap dance. And it maximum undoubtedly isn’t about how fats your ass is. Ample asses (each faux and herbal) can and can get cheated on when coping with specific sorts. And simply what specific sorts am I regarding?
A pastor as soon as stated to me, “Sexual conquests make a person really feel like a person with out truly being one.” Sit with that one whilst I sip on some tea.
I’m regarding males who affiliate their manhood with their sexual conquests, which is sadly, how males are most often socialized on this nation. The males who do not are living via this same old are certainly remarkable and every now and then must combat on a regular basis not to get sucked into this blackhole ideology of J.Cole’s newest, Kevin’s Heart.
As lengthy as smashing any lady he desires is attached to how he feels as a person, he’s going to proceed to be on that quest. Why? Because each and every guy desires to really feel like a person, particularly Black males whose manhood is continuously challenged on this nation. And let’s accept it, figuring out as a person has so much to do with sexual prowess (regardless of how false that can be).
And all of it simply makes me unhappy once I see and listen to about girls pumping their asses with each herbal and unnatural elements. Because whether or not it used to be finished as a component of a arise, to earn extra paper, energy or love, it does now not ensure the ones issues. In reality, if he has now not handled the supply of his manhood the one factor this is positive is that he’s going to transfer directly to the following ass.
I have no idea what it implies that the 2 freshest feminine rappers within the recreation have changed asses. Would they have got been allowed to shoot to popularity with out it? Can feminine rappers with flat asses be as welcomed and embraced within the hip hop neighborhood? Just questions but it surely all turns out like a painful lesson in futility to me.
Much recognize to Cardi, Nikki, and the Queen. They educate me many such things as in finding my energy throughout the issues that males can’t do. And sure, I’ve even taken up pole dancing categories to step up my twerk recreation and to have fun (just a few of) what makes me nice. But you best possible consider that there might be no alterations to the frame this is operating the pole. If he or the business doesn’t need me as I’m, they are able to kiss my flat ass. As Janelle Monae` famously schooled one guy on her Twitter account, “…I’m not for consumption.” I refuse to be any person’s conquest.
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Dawn is a author and a mom who holds down an afternoon process in academia. Currently she is getting her shit in combination. More to return from her!